Be my Valentine
As we are in the season of love, the day when everyone expresses their undying love for one another. There are those who are really in love and those who are just celebrating the season and living the Valentine’s day moments.
Husbands are buying their adorable wives gifts and making sure she understands how much he loves her. Good boyfriends are trying to make a great impression on girlfriends while “Mr. hit it and forget it” is impressing and up all night to get lucky.
I miss those days when love really was love; when men and women loved each other endlessly and aimlessly. Love without contempt, materialism, status etc, it was love that was very genuine, true and not about keeping up with the status quo.
Girlfriends as you go about lavishing your earnings on expensive gifts, lingerie, cooking romantic dinners and creating the perfect atmosphere, please be smart and not just do all these things to impress a man that you probably know deep down you don’t love but just tolerating because of a particular reason or motive and guys likewise.
Why are you trying to impress that boyfriend you have dated for years? You’ve wished he will pop the question for ages and he still hasn’t well, this will not change his mind. After all these years of dating if he doesn’t love you enough, for him to commit then he might not which is selfish. Men know the right words to say to sweep you off your feet into their arms. Oh, how powerful that word Love is, that it could build a home or destroy it.
Our generation is so focused on our looks to the extent that we go to great magnitudes to alter our looks neglecting the fact that beauty is skin deep. Therefore we go to great depths to be in a relationship only to keep up with the status quo. Having a partner is craved and switched like food, clothes or make-up.
If someone can take off their rib cage just to have that skinny waist, get an implant to have big boobs and butt that many desire then why wouldn’t they have one night stand with anyone without worrying about the risk.
I am just going to be a little real, which is sometimes termed mean; but that fine as long as “this saves you instead of setting you up for failure”.
On this great love day don’t get me wrong, please express your love to the max because I have my own romantic evening planned for my husband and I to enjoy.
If you are married please go all out and express your undying and ordained love to one another in anyway to the fullest.
Now if your status is girlfriend or boyfriend due to no commitment this is a huge risk which you should be aware of.
Moving into his house or the gifts if not an engagement ring yet, still isn’t commitment. When you meet a person or while dating, if any unease, fear, or doubts about them are felt at any point in time please let them go. Word of advice if dating and notice any unbearable behaviors run do not entertain the idea of try to make him change because it will be a temporal change.
In a case that you just met him and think; this might be going somewhere, you could be right but no amount of gifts should cause you to have sex with him already, likewise men no amount of good girl or wifely attitude should cause you to start sleeping with her.
You know you just met; get to know each other, hang out and spend some time together but not time behind closed doors alone. The key should not be given before the lease is signed and rent is paid!
Meaning not validated or qualify till you are married. We get caught up in the moment and do it, well when you get out of the moment you will regret it.
Not to kill the moment, enjoy this lovely day and if you do not have a romantic person in your life do not feel left out because the right one at the right time will come so no worries.
Enjoy being single and do not feel bad which can lead to bad decisions.
Just for the record remember valentine day is not just for only couples but is a love sharing moment with any significant other meaning family members as well so do not limit yourself.
Live, Love and Laugh……enjoy!!!
