“ Daddy Issues” -Step 1 in the Healing process

Hello and welcome to this weeks discussion. I’m Hoping you Had a blessed one.

God wants to use this process of information and discussion to move us, women/men from a place of resentment, heartbreak, and unforgiveness to place of healing, restoration and to launch us into knowing our identity in Christ; who we are and who’s we are in this world.

As we have been discussing how daddy issues affect our attachments styles in our relationships mostly our marriages.

We bring our insecure attachment styles from our childhood into adulthood relationships.

As I've shared and thrown light with various points showing what it looks like if a person Has Daddy issues.

If you felt like some of those things resonated with you then we are here today to discuss the process of healing from these issues that have been apart of us and caused us so many problems.

The Parable of the Lost Son -Luke 15:11–32

Verse 11. Jesus continued: “There was a man who had two sons. 12 The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them

Verse 13 the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country, and there he squandered his wealth in wild living.

14 After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need.

15 So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs.

16 He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.

Step 1 in healing: Identify the Problem & Repent:

17 “When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death!

18 I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you.

19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’

20 So he got up and went to his father.

The healing process will begin when we realize that while we have an earthly father who was not fulfilling their roles properly the; mindset, feeling, and void originated from the garden of Eden. Genesis 3:6–8

6 The woman saw that the tree’s fruit was good to eat and pleasing to look at. She also saw that it would make a person wise. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her. And he ate it.

7 Then both of them knew things they had never known before. They realized they were naked. So they sewed together fig leaves and made clothes for themselves.

8 Then the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking in the garden. It was during the coolest time of the day. They hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the Lord God called out to the man. “Where are you?” he asked.

11 The Lord God said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten fruit from the tree I commanded you not to eat from?”

From orphan to daughter/Son: An orphan is defined as a child whose parents are dead.

• When Adam and Eve left the Garden they lost their place. They lost their sense of belonging and safety.
• They lost their father and the relationship they had with God the father.
• This broken family system started since Adam and Eve sinned and disobeyed God in the garden.
• They breached the system that God created for us to dwell with Him. In the garden, we had a place and we no longer have a place.
• This is where it all started, our first and foremost attachment style got messed up.
• We formed insecure attachment styles and it transferred from generation to generation. It has become a cycle.
• As a person before we get saved as a Christian, we are orphans. Meaning we are displaced and do not belong.
• As a pagan/unsaved person, we are constantly striving to belong and to fit in and just have a family. The Lord has attempted so many times to redeem us in the old testament but through His countless efforts, it seems impossible because of our sinful ways.
• The only way for us to be saved was by God giving His only Son Jesus Christ to die for us. Jesus' sacrifice gave us the ability to be adopted as sons and daughters of God. God loves us completely since we are His to begin with, and have been redeemed from sin which was a debt that had us bound to sin. Through the death and resurrection of Christ, We've attained redemption which is a second chance to be Called His.
• Romans 6:1–7 read this verse when you get a Chance.

Salvation gave us any these privileges and moved us :

From rejected to accepted

From lost to found

From seeking to found

From longing to satisfied

From running to settling down

From fearful to faithful

From a shaky foundation to secure foundation

From been loved to knowing I’m loved

From people-pleasing to seeking only one person's approval of God.

From feeling like I don’t belong to finding the one who loves my soul

From been selfish to live a selfless life.

From surviving to living

From having just enough to overflowing

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

This is a chance for a new beginning my friend. The Lord is calling all the prodigal back home. Come home to your father and your savior.