May you rejoice in the wife of your youth!!
This scripture is speaking to you and me. Proverbs 5 is titled “Warning Against Adultery”. This chapter is speaking to our men and warning them to stay away from women who are not their wives. Reading it I was like OMG this is some great advice. Do you know that the bible has every answer and details you will ever need in your life? Check it out!!
Personally I will encourage and highly recommend you cross-referencing everything anyone tells you with the word. It is very important because the word of God is a compass and a guide to all the issues we will ever face or experience in your life.
This blog topic is my verse of emphasis in this chapter. I want you to read it and let the Lord speak to you about this verse. This is a piece of very good advice to our men but also to us. We are to enjoy each other as a couple. Our fountain is blessed!! If we do not resolve our daddy issues( Or any other issue we have) which is one of the main issues we carry as women/men, we will end up robbing our husbands and ourselves from benefiting from this blessing and any other blessing as a couple that the word is speaking about in general.
You find a woman saying “ I am not happy”!! This is not because all of a sudden she is not happy. Of course, it takes two to tangle but I am almost certain it is because (some /or all) of her expectations were not met. She is mirroring her happiness to the fact that she can’t see her way clear. Her husband over a period of time has not met her expectations or doing what she thinks he should do; disappointment sets in, frustration, anger, and resentment, I am emphasizing on us women but vice versa.
If you meet a fellow wife who is always complaining about her husband. It not because all he has is bad qualities, it also because she is too blinded by her own baggage and issues to see any good in the man God has blessed her with.
Over time, they both resent each other hence the husband is not able to rejoice with the wife of His youth. I understand this rejoicing as: “ Doing life together, adventuring, and just been naked and unashamed with each other as Adam and Eve were in the garden. reference: Genesis 2:25".
It is easy for men to put up a wall and go into their shells when they feel like their wife is constantly coming at them. I will relate it to “ A cat chasing a mouse” fear cause the mouse to run for its dear life. Everything on this earth has a “survival instinct” that kicks in when there is danger or fear for its life, immediately an escape strategy is initiated. Phycologist would call this a “fight or flight”. Once it is triggered immediately you find yourself avoiding that thing or person and because your peace, life, etc is threatened. Are you raising this man's heartbeat?? Stop it, please!!
Girl….. I found my Husband avoiding me in public, at home sucked into his gaming systems or work( ps. some men will do this regardless because let's face it, we all have issues and addictions). Apart from the situation was spiritual, but then some aspects of it were my constant nagging and raining down fire on this man. Well, I know you feel sorry for Him lol, I do too. He's not a perfect soul but this scripture asks us to “take the speck out of my our own eye first”. Matthew 7:3–5 will tell you all you need to know about dealing with you first.
Anyways, as I digress “my slip was really hanging out and unfortunately no one came around to say hey, your stuff is hanging”. Instead, people toiled and played with the advantage point and division door that was opened so wide and preyed on our issues.
The attention my husband was to get from me who is his wife was been given by others “ family and friends”(which used to get under my skin)but I'm glad it wasn't another woman. Thank God for his mercy !!
Of course, we know that mastermind behind all of this is the enemy, not the people. They are just tools he is using to accomplish his goal and attack us. The only way the enemy can attack us is if we invite him in and by opening the door. He immediately slips through the cracks coming to “ steal, kill and destroy”.
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. John 101:10
In conclusion, due to our daddy issues, we tend to bring the issues of our insecure attachment styles within our marriages and it tends to cause problems that drive a wedge between our spouse and us. We are reminded to seek God and get the Help needed to heal and get restored in him, as he heals those wounds of daddy issues.
This way we enter into sonship and are able to enjoy our marriage with our spouse. Be bless and look out for more posts encouraging us to walk through the process of becoming a son and a daughter in christ which will cause us to find our identity in Him and enjoy out marriage to the fullest of God's standard.
