My tongue: My words are they building up or tearing down!!

Good morning beautiful women of God,

This was echoed in my spirit today. The Lord reminded me of the journey we have been on (He and I) in regards to my tongue.

Looking back to all the ugly structures I’ve built up or good structures I’ve torn down from speaking anyhow, and whenever out of pain, insecurity, inability to communicate effectively, and frustration at the wrong person(my husband) instead of the enemy had me shaking my head.

Listen, this is a major area and God is still working on me and I want to echo that because I’ve not arrived but I pray that you hear the heart of God’s word through this post.

Communication is very key and important in a marriage, hence the enemy will do anything to cause a barrier, and miscommunication to occur always based on our unique upbringing, culture, personality, and our lense. The devil thrives on the fact that we hear the word of God and don’t do what the word of God is saying to us.

James 3:1–12 gives an in-depth explanation of our tongue and the dangers that can occur because of what we say as a person. As people of God, the word of God is the lamp unto our feet and a light unto our paths.

Psalms 119:105, Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.

The word of God guides us through life and we have to take heed to the truth of God.

In James 3 our emphasis will be on verse 7 -10

7 For all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and sea creatures can be or have been tamed by humans, 8 but no one can tame the tongue. It is an uncontrollable evil filled with deadly poison. 9 With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it, we curse those who are made in God’s likeness. 10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. It should not be like this, my brothers!

The word of God in this verse is very clear and allows us to understand that we cannot tame our tongues. Every animal can be tamed but our tongues cannot be tamed by us no matter how much we try.

Personally, I came to the place of getting to know God for myself back in college, ever since then the Lord has been working on me. I look back to things I would say or do then and today I find myself refrained from doing those things.

However, I realize God is molding me into His image and likeness. The Lord changes and transforms us as we grow in our faith.

Think about it today, as you have been walking with the Lord, what changes can you pinpoint as a believer, looking back at your old man?

2 Corinthians 5:17 says “ 17 Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things have become new”.

All things becoming new is a process but it can happen with you yielding to God. Yielding to God happens daily in those moments when we are in a heated fellowship with our spouse.

In those moments, are we going to throw our words around and tear our husbands down and build up some ugly structures or are we going to choose our words wisely and speak like a wise woman?

Proverbs 14:1 says “The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands, the foolish one tears hers down”.

How are you building your house today or tearing it down?

Post your comments and thoughts below.

Prayer:

Father God, we come to you today with our hearts, minds, souls, and spirits. We submit our mouth to you and ask you to take over our tongue. I believe only you can tame it and only you can use it for your glory. At this moment, my sisters and I surrender it all to you. We surrender our upbringing, culture, lens, and all the factors that have contributed to our way of communicating with our spouse to you.

We trust you to come into our hearts, minds, soul, and spirit by directing our path. Use your word which is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path to teach us when to speak with our tongue, how to speak, and what to say. Help us to be quiet in moments that are necessary and speak in moments that are needed. We give our all to you and ask you to come and do work in our marriage and in our homes today, in and through us.

In Jesus name. Amen

Originally published at https://medium.com on November 19, 2020.